There are many definitons for ABUSE 1. to use wrongly or improperly; misuse 2 to treat in a harmful, injurious, offensive way 3.to speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about; revile;malign. 4. to deceive or mislead.
There are many forms of abuse verbal. physical, sexual, mental.
Ladies sometimes we as woman take much more than we have to from men. We see the signs of the above early on in the relationship and decide to deal with these "little" things because we don't want to be alone, or because we think he's fine, Or because he gives us money or simply because he has a big dick and for those few minutes he makes you feel good. I used this line from Toni's song because it says I KNOW you never really loved me. Loving someone who doesn't love you is stupid. I know we sometimes cannot help who we fall for and when it's not reciprocated it's hard but why keep that flame burning? When you factor in abuse, well for me that is an automatic ,Get the fuck on! Kick rocks. I cannot understand and perhaps it's not for me to understand taking any kind of abuse that you have control of.
Ladies if he slaps you once, he will again. A real man will not touch you no matter how angry he gets.If you allow him to get away with it he will try you again and again until it becomes the norm. He's sorry and you're fucked up IT IS NOT ALL RIGHT TO LET A MUTHERFUCKA POUND ON YOU!!! Under any circumstance, there is no excuse. If you are like me then you face possible jail time. Because I will bash Mr. head in and wait for heaven later. If you are not this type. Do not give him another chance, to possibly do more damage.
If he is constantly worried about your whereabouts, those are his insecurities. Do not allow him to alter your life. Do not allow him to dictate to you who your friends can be and where you can and cannot go. You are able to make those grown woman decisions for yourself. Some mistake this controlling behavior for him "caring" about you., but that's bullshit. He wants you under his thumb at all times and he is more than likely doing some ill shit himself and don't want yall to end up in the same space.
If he calls you out your name and makes you feel badly about yourself, or constantly tells you how he is the only one that wants you. Leave that ass alone! Believe me he is not the only one. Again these are his issues and he can only make himself feel good by putting you down.Do not feed into his bullshit. I realize not everyone is as quick at the mouth as I am but if you cannot verbally take his ass down a peg, then use this time to defend yourself. You are not a bitch, you are not ugly, useless, dumb, stupid or whatever else he comes up with and let him know you do not appreciate this. He will eventually leave you alone because he will realize that his bull won't fly.
If he wants sex and you say no. Then it's NO!!!!. If he forces himself on you then you have been raped hon, and you need to be making a police report.
These punk ass predators, I won't say men. Prey on women with low self esteem. They will sometimes try a woman who has her shit together but they will quickly give that shit up. Trying to " break" her or "train" her is too much work. They will come with the wine and roses in the beginning. Everything will seem right out of a fairy tale. But it will all change up soon. Ladies when you see the signs don't ignore them, because the shit don't get no better.If you are having any doubts fall back!!! Because if your gut tells you this mutha is crazy, guess what? He probably is!
Ying, you always bring the truth, but let me keep this shit real. There is just to many of our sistas walking around with broken hearts, fucked up emotions, and they just want to loved like the next woman. It will take women of all races, to stop I can't take no more. Until it happens, the wheel will keep rolling, and we will never have change. I am so tired of watching our women of this world accepting less. Just 2 days ago I saw a man with his girlfriend and his child, this man had the word "STUPID" tattooed in red trimmed in black. Now if that is not enough to run from, I don't know what is. The sad apart about it she was holding on to him for dear life like another female wanted him....We got to stay on our knees praying, be encouraged ladies.
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